I’m all for a bit of pampering but to me, self-care is so much more than that. However, what self care looks like to me will be different to your version. Sometimes it seems to be a trend but I think of it as looking after myself. It’s not always as simple as a bath and a face mask. However, if that works for you, go for it! Normal listicles include the same activities every time so I thought I’d make my own version so here’s what self care looks like to me. Remember this is 100% personal to me!
Setting up my planners
I find something so therapeutic about sitting at my desk and organising my week. I try to organise it on Google Calendar for the most part and then use my paper planners to make my week look pretty. I’ll schedule in the smaller tasks, like chores and pampering, to break up my days. I legit have a sticker for everything. It might seem childish but I enjoy it. I try to do a sticker haul once a month so I’m not spending too much regularly (it can get expensive).
This makes a great Friday or Sunday evening activity. I tend to set up my planners on a Friday afternoon as I’m zoning out of work mode ready for the weekend but I’m still getting some productive but less taxing tasks done. I have multiple planners too because I like to seperate everything! There’s a planner for everything in my life! I’ll be sharing my 2021 planner set-up very soon so stay tuned!
This is something I didn’t start doing until the first lockdown but it’s incredibly satisfying. Every morning, I write down three things I’m grateful for and then write down my affirmation of the day from the Affirmations app. Before settling down in bed on a night, I write down three small wins for the day. It’s not a lot but it feels good to wake up and go to sleep with a positive mindset.
Some days can be a struggle, especially when I haven’t been as productive as I would’ve liked. I have to remind myself that I’m lucky enough to live at home, have food in the fridge and have my own business. One day, a small win can be completing a client project, the next day it can be getting out of bed by 10am. Balance, people, balance!
Singing along to musical soundtracks
Ah, my beloved musicals. Whilst I do love sitting down to watch a film or box set, singing heals the soul for me. Do I pretend I’m on a stage every time I sing along? Absolutely! Musicals are the one genre that I have always adored and I don’t see that changing anytime soon! I either stick on Magic at the Musicals or my favourite soundtracks, which are:
- Dear Evan Hansen
- Legally Blonde
- Mean Girls
Working at my own pace
Since going self-employed, I’ve realised that I’m not made to work 9-5 days. Often, I have a slow morning and work all afternoon and evening. Other days, I wake up at 7am, go straight to my desk and stop working at 2pm. In a ‘regular’ job, you can’t do that so I wasn’t going to miss that opportunity when working for myself. Being able to set my own hours and change it up every day is definitely the highlight of working from home!
As a Capricorn, I crave routine. It’s practically in my DNA. However, I am flexible about it but a creature of habit. I have a routine for mornings, evening, Monday CEO/admin mornings, Friday planning afternoon, wind-down Sunday evenings, all of which I’ll share in the new year on the blog. (I’ll be dedicating a full week to routines.) None of these routines are overly complicated but it’s nice to have something in place.
In 2020, I’ve re-discovered my love of reading. As of right now, I’m very close to my target of reading 100 books for the year. In 2021, I want to continue this. I tend to read for at least half an hour before bed. On slow mornings, I love to get some reading in before starting my day too. I try to read a mix of fiction and non-fiction too to change it up a little. I’ve always been a bookworm but adulting means we don’t always have time for the things we love!
Social media detox days
Social media is a vacuum. You just get sucked in and then realise you’ve wasted a full hour just scrolling away. I love to look at Instagram but don’t particularly enjoy actually posting myself. Twitter, on the other hand, is more my place. I just chat crap all day long. However, there are just days when you need a break. Weekends are the perfect time to delete those apps, block the websites and do something fun. I do break my detox to live tweet Strictly on a Saturday and Sunday night though!
Tidying, decluttering + organisation
I have a confession to make: tidying and decluttering is one of my favourite hobbies. Genuinely, I could do it for a living. It’s actually starting to annoy my parents because I get rid of everything if it has no use. There’s something so therapeutic about decluttering. An item could’ve served its purpose or you might be upgrading to a newer model but it’s done its job. Please try to recycle or donate items though to help save the environment! You could do a Project Pan to start or set up a capsule wardrobe to dip your toes in!
Ah, my best friend. Honestly, I love sleep so much. If I don’t get at least seven hours of sleep a night, I am a grump. Equally, if I sleep longer than eight, I feel like I’ve wasted my day! I’m awake between 7am and 8am most days so bedtime is around 10.30pm. If I’ve had a rubbish night’s sleep, I always go to bed earlier that night to make up for it though! Sleep is so important to keep yourself well rested.
TV and film
I watch a lot of TV and films, probably too many in fact. However, I usually have them on as background noise during the day and night. Sometimes, it’s just nice to put away the phone and laptop and just do nothing but watch TV. I tend to watch more box sets than films but I do have a few faves I always reach for:
- Chicago Fire/PD/Med/Justice
- Grey’s Anatomy
- One Tree Hill
- Gilmore Girls
- The Hills
- Downton Abbey
- Center Stage
- She’s the Man
- Singin’ in the Rain
- High School Musical 1-3
- Harry Potter 1-8
What self care looks like to me: finding what works for you
These things are all personal to me. You might be someone who finds a long bath relaxing; to me, it’s my idea of hell. A quick shower and exfolation does the trick for me! Whilst I still like beauty products, I find keeping it simple works best for me. I might add a leave-on face mask if I’m feeling particularly luxurious though.
What self care looks like to me can be completely different to what it looks like to you! Do you have a favourite self-care activity or do you prefer to just sit and have some peace and quiet? Leave me a comment below and let me know how you self care.